Wednesday

Don't Leap Till Your Ready




Don't Invest in a Relationship until your Positive it's going to Work

Were all guilty of this misguided behavior. If the world built bridges every time they thought we needed one we would be knee deep in structures we didn’t need or want. All to often we invest our emotions and hopes and then find ourselves shortchanged by someone who didn’t feel the same way we did. Life will connect us with many encounters of the close kind. But that doesn’t mean that they will all work out. Mixing with people and finding out how we feel is a lesson that’s not taught in a classroom. Its best learned by being part of the human race. Just because someone shows you affection doesn’t mean their preparing to sweep you off your feet.

Smelling Good Isn't Enough

Life is like living in a trash barrel. No matter what you do sometimes life just stinks. When your in one of these moods don’t be eager to engage someone in the journey leading to a date at the alter. Just because someone comes along and they smell better then your life doesn’t mean you should flap your wings and fly off into the sunset with them. On the contrary during one of these foul smelling moods one should retreat to the nearest liquor store and buy large quantities of liquid medicine and then barricade yourself in the closet. Oh and don’t forget the medicine that will sedate you till the smell of mendacity clears your head and you see the folly of what your thinking of doing.

Mendacity

Wow I love having the opportunity to use the word mendacity. I learned this word from a movie many years ago called The Cat on the Hot Tin Roof. The main three actors were Elizabeth Taylor, Paul Newman and Burl Ives. Burl Ives was the person who was dying of cancer and wasn’t being told the truth. That’s when he said something like I think I sense the smell mendacity in the air. Even today that’s still a cool movie to watch.

Keep Your Good Sense About You

Sometimes we all put our good sense to sleep and avoid reality and just go ahead and do what ever feels good at the moment. This type of behavior is ok for most things but getting married is not one of them. Most marriages whether we like the truth or not end in divorce and that’s a burden best avoided if at all possible.

Drum First

If your considering excepting or giving a marriage proposal and haven’t given it due consideration; here’s what I suggest you do. First get a large empty metal drum and place it over your head and then hit it repeatedly with a hammer until common sense flows back into veins of your brain. If this doesn’t work use the hammer directly to you skull and stop doing same when the idea vanishes from your brain. If this doesn’t work build a bridge and hopefully a bird will fly by and crap on your parade and that smell will awake your comatose brain back to reality and you will decide to continue to claim only one dependent when you file your income tax information.

Remember Mendacity

Remember the cat and the smell of mendacity and stay single until the smell clears your nose. That’s my story and I’m sticking to it.


Don L. Terrill

photo by wallyg

Monday

Dream of Finding that Special Person





Use your Dreams to Meet People


Dreams are like the light at the end of the tunnel. We see it but never reach it. But maybe that’s the best way to try a thought out. In our dreams all things are possible. Even jumping tall buildings in a single bound. Dreams are not what we will do; they are what we want to do. And maybe they are possible if they’re exposed to the light of day.

I Love Dreaming

Why are we so shy to share our dreams? Maybe it because dreams are easy to have and hard to make. I think also that we find comfort in this part of our mind and the things that are stored there. This is the place where planes fly with no wings, homes are build without nails and love finds refuge were no one can touch it.

I Dreamed of Love

When I was a child I dreamed of many things. Some of them have come to pass, while others sit idle hoping for a ride to reality. When I was really young I had two dreams one was to become rich and then lavish my Mother (who I had never met) with all the worldly goods money could buy. My other dream was to build a facility where children could go to find shelter from the cold. I conceived the building would house all the children of the world. And there they would find the security they sorely needed. Each child would have there own room and that room locked from the inside and no one could enter unless they wanted them to. I guess that was the perception I had of life at that juncture in my life. It’s was hard for me to understand why my brother and I had no mother or father. And I’m not sure that either one of us asked the question out loud. I’m not even sure we understood the concept and reality of what it felt like to be part of a proper family. Where hugging was common and someone tucked us in at night. Sadly enough my brother and I never truly understood the concept of love and how that love bonded people together.

We Never Shared Our Dreams

I’m sure that my brother had dreams but for some reason we never talked about them. I guess like me he choice to keep his dreams to himself. Today were many years older and I wonder if he has any dreams still waiting for him to active and bring to life. Maybe someday before the sun sets in my life, Ill ask him and then maybe we can put some questionable memories to rest; where they can find peace.

Maybe dreams give us a place where we all find a sense of wellness. A place where we can hide from the world. And maybe dreams come true even if they don’t see the day of light.

Use your dreams and see yourself meeting people and in time finding the love of your life.That’s my story and I’m sticking to it.


Don L. Terrill

photo by Nicobobinus

Friday

Class Reunions Good Places to Ignite Old Relationships




Unkind Words Severed Their Relationship

Carol & Troy were go togethers during their last two years of high school and then just prior to graduation words poorly selected drove a wedge between them and going together became a memory of their past.

Then their class like all graduation classes posted their first class reunion. And both Carol & Troy decided to revisit the past with no expectations on their agenda accept meeting old friends and remembering the good times they had while trying to fill their minds with book learning.

A Tap Brought Them Together

Carol arrived first and didn’t notice Troy till he tapped her on the shoulder and that prompted a hug that seemed to contain more then just a casual hey to each other. But getting back together wasn’t destined to happen at their first re meeting together. But fate wasn’t going to let them get away that easy.

Two weeks later they crossed paths again at a local eatery and shared lunch together. Carol my source for this article remembered their talking was only about the now and didn’t delve much in their past together. She said it was like they were both different now and being together was a brand new relationship.

On One Knee

It took them about three months of sharing time together to get Troy to get on one knee and say for the first time to her that love is what he felt for her and hoped it was a mutual feeling both shared about each other.

Carol confessed it caught her by surprise and even held her speechless for a moment. She said I didn’t see it coming and because of that needed about fifteen seconds to conjure up and arrange the necessary words to say yes I will marry you and yes I love you too.

Looking for some place to meet someone? Maybe that place is a class reunion and maybe you’ll find someone that remembers a smile that you once shared with them and that smile still lingers in their memory.

Here’s hoping that smiles finds you.


Don L. Terrill

photo by Alan Light

Wednesday

Read Between the Lines





An Indiscretion Could be Harmful


I met Lisa while having a beer at the local pub in my hometown. The bar was called the Pine Pub and it was a popular watering hole right across the street from the police department. It was an old building and sometimes you would see something scurry by your vision but it didn’t seem to matter to those who enjoyed the atmosphere the place provided. I always sat at the bar I liked having the opportunity to talk and the bartenders always accommodated their customers by listening or sharing their thoughts.

We Enjoyed a Bud Together

Then one night a very attractive lady sat down next to me. See said hi and I think I just smiled. She watched the TV and from time to time commented on what was going on. The next day she showed up again and we started talking like we knew each other. Eventually I introduced myself and we moved closer to each other. She wore no wedding ring so I assumed she was single. That was my first mistake and another big mistake was soon to follow. Here comes the big mistake. After probably one too many drinks she suggested we wonder over to her home and find ourselves a more comfortable way to communicate with each other. She drove because my car was in the shop for repairs, that proved to be a good thing, which will become clear later also.

Smooch Then Head lights

We arrived at her home and settled down to smooching on the sofa. All was well till the headlights of a car shined thru the front window of the house. She leaped up and proclaimed in horror that her husband just drove in and I needed to leave via the back door. I not fully clothed gathered my apparel, shoes in hand and exited the back door running like the wind. But too my surprise I didn’t see the clothes line in the back yard. I connected with same chest high with such force that my feet rose up off the ground and I landed flat on my back. I so startled myself that I could hardly make it over the wooden fence, which was the last obstacle I faced before finding my freedom in the alley.

Honesty & Sex Don't Seem to Go Together

Is there something to be learned here? Yes do not assume your companion is being honest with you and also don’t drink too much and become stupid or more stupid depending on what your norm is. Some people are die hard liars. They wouldn’t know the truth if it hit them in the face.

Lesson Learned

This incident taught me a dear lesson. People don’t always tell the truth, because they have an agenda, which conflicts with telling the truth. Why people lie is puzzlement to me. I like all people have stretched the truth at one time or another. I personally am a non-convincing liar. I guess that's why I don’t gamble as a rule. My words and face give me away.

Lying is Always a Bad Thing

It’s been my experience that lying never helps and almost always causes more problems then it cures. Most people I know prefer hearing the truth then getting a line of baloney. I make one exception for baloney and that’s the kind you buy in the meat section of the grocery store. I especially like ring baloney.

Lies Make Fools of us All

A lie may also catch you with your pants down and then knock you off your feet and that really hurts when you hit the ground. That’s my story and I’m sticking to it.


Don L. Terrill

photo twoblueday

Monday

Jerk Less Date Better




Being a Jerk won't get you the results your looking for

When I was in Long Beach, California I was under age and subject to a night curfew. That didn’t concern me too much, mainly because I didn’t have any place to stay anyway. Then one night while walking down an alley I was stopped handcuffed and put in the back of a squad car. They told me I violated curfew and told me they were going to take me home this time rather then booking me. They asked me where I lived, I said anywhere I can. They thought I was being a smart ass and booked me into a juvenile detention center. They gathered information from me and then placed me in a room that had one window, a bed, a stool and a slot in the door were they pushed food thru for the occupant of the room.

Bad Words

Four days straight a man entered my room and fooled around with the heating unit and then before he left asked me how I was doing. I responded by saying two words, which weren’t nice. The man then left without saying anything. I was allowed to exit the room once a day and take a shower.

I Got the Message

Then on the fifth day I finally realized what was going on and acted accordingly. Once again this gentlemen came in fooled with the heater and repeated the same question he asked the four previous days. This time when he asked how I was doing? I said ok and that was the magic key that got me out of confinement.

Want Help Don't be a Jerk

The people in charge asked me if I had some place to go? I said yes even thought they and I knew I didn’t. I just wanted out. I think they knew I was homeless but they let me go anyway.
From time to time they would catch me after curfew, but this time they would just wave or asked me if I would like something to eat. The answer to that question was always yes and they would treat me to a burger and fries. In about two weeks they told me where to go and who to talk to for a job interview. It was a hamburger place that looked like a railroad train and I became a short order cook. The boss was a nice guy and I really had a good time. The owner also rented rooms which were only two blocks away and that’s where I stayed.

Less Jerking More Dates

I learned that being nice produces better results then being a jerk. So if your looking for a date drop the jerk stuff. That’s my story and I’m sticking to it.


Don L. Terrill

photo by KateMonkey

Thursday

You Date Better When You Feel Better




Unhappiness Hinders the Dating Process

For most of us dating is a difficult project and frequently stresses us out. To help relieve this condition may I suggest the following approach.

Stay Relaxed

Keeping yourself relaxed is a very simple thing to do and there are so many ways to achieve this state of mind.

Depression

I like many people of the the world have been challenged by the dark world of depression. Depression is slowly becoming an acceptable word in our society. Not to long ago people concealed their depression and tried to solve it themselves. I am a depressed person from time to time. But I’m glad to report that I have become a better controller of my unhappiness. Today I am almost the master of my feelings and it’s a great way to feel. Perhaps my simplicity will be of help to you.

The Simple Things work the Best for Me

I have tried many approaches on this subject and for me the simple approaches work best.
All to often we look to Doctors and medication to solve our problems and ignore simple remedies that have been practiced for generations.

Magic Pill

Sometimes I’m more vulnerable then other times: when this happens I take the magic pill and in short time I’m back to being ok. I’m grateful to live at a time in our evolution that offer many options to many problems. To those who spend their life finding solutions I extend my grateful gratitude. For without you we would still be using sticks to start fires.

Magic Bullet for Me

Relaxation thinking has been the magic bullet for me. Many moons ago the love of my life taught me a very simple breathing technique, which has probably been around since the being of time. During one of my episodes my wife suggested I breath deeply and let the air out slowly. I tried it, even though in my mind I couldn’t imagine such a simple thing would really work on such a difficult thing in my life. Boy was I surprised. It like stopped my system from running out of control and made me feel better. Imagine sitting in your car with the gearshift in neutral and gas pedal pushed flat to the floor. This would cause the motor to run full speed. Now release your foot from the pedal and the motor returns to idle speed. That’s what happens in the body when people have panic situations and the solution is to calm you down. Deep breathing is an aid in slowing you body’s motor down to an idle speed.

The Power of Breathing

Don’t underestimate the power of deep breathing and the releasing of the air slowly from your lungs. I use this approach regularly and highly recommend to everyone. And there are no side affects, that I know of and doesn’t cost you, an arm or leg to use.

So Breath on and Date Better. That’s my story and I’m sticking to it.


Don L. Terrill

photo by Paradigm

Sunday

Dating & Feeling Well Go Together




Unhappiness Hinders the Dating Process

For most of us dating is a difficult project and frequently stresses us out. To help relieve this condition may I suggest the following approach.

Stay Relaxed

Keeping yourself relaxed is a very simple thing to do and there are so many ways to achieve this state of mind.

Depression

I like many people of the the world have been challenged by the dark world of depression. Depression is slowly becoming an acceptable word in our society. Not to long ago people concealed their depression and tried to solve it themselves. I am a depressed person from time to time. But I’m glad to report that I have become a better controller of my unhappiness. Today I am almost the master of my feelings and it’s a great way to feel. Perhaps my simplicity will be of help to you.

The Simple Things work the Best for Me

I have tried many approaches on this subject and for me the simple approaches work best.
All to often we look to Doctors and medication to solve our problems and ignore simple remedies that have been practiced for generations.

Magic Pill

Sometimes I’m more vulnerable then other times: when this happens I take the magic pill and in short time I’m back to being ok. I’m grateful to live at a time in our evolution that offer many options to many problems. To those who spend their life finding solutions I extend my grateful gratitude. For without you we would still be using sticks to start fires.

Magic Bullet for Me

Relaxation thinking has been the magic bullet for me. Many moons ago the love of my life taught me a very simple breathing technique, which has probably been around since the being of time. During one of my episodes my wife suggested I breath deeply and let the air out slowly. I tried it, even though in my mind I couldn’t imagine such a simple thing would really work on such a difficult thing in my life. Boy was I surprised. It like stopped my system from running out of control and made me feel better. Imagine sitting in your car with the gearshift in neutral and gas pedal pushed flat to the floor. This would cause the motor to run full speed. Now release your foot from the pedal and the motor returns to idle speed. That’s what happens in the body when people have panic situations and the solution is to calm you down. Deep breathing is an aid in slowing you body’s motor down to an idle speed.

The Power of Breathing

Don’t underestimate the power of deep breathing and the excelling of the air slowly from your lungs. I use this approach regularly and highly recommend to everyone. And there are no side affects, that I know of and doesn’t cost you, an arm or leg to use.

So Breath on and Date Better. That’s my story and I’m sticking to it.


Don L. Terrill

photo by Paradigm

Saturday

Keep Control of Your Actions





Chemical Process


I honestly believe there is a chemical process that goes on in our brain that controls are ability to think straight during the mating ritual. This chemical in essence blind sides us and helps perpetuate the human race. This over whelming desire should be considered and checked with preventive measures so that it doesn’t over ride our common sense and good judgment.

Love & Perpetuation are Two Different Things

Facing reality on this issue will help prevent one of life’s biggest pitfalls. No matter what your thoughts are on the subject ignoring same wont likely produce the results your hoping for. Putting our heads in the ground like a long necked animal has not worked in the past and is not likely to work in the future. Some how every person must face this situation prior to the probability of it happening and select a course of action. Keeping a tight focus on the ramifications of our future actions will certainly give us thoughts to ponder.

Get the Love Thing First

We as human beings must realize that this process has noting to do with the mating of two human hearts. To think otherwise is the thinking of a closed mind. So seeing it for what it is and acting accordingly is the thinking of an open mind. This article is not about the right and wrongness of this subject matter, it’s about the reality of life and the choices we have available to us.

My Decision not Ours

For me this reality was a no brainier and was my decision and my decision alone to make. I chose to eliminate my ability to increase the density of our planet. This decision was not greeted with approval from my dating partner. I was told I should have confided with her first before making such a mind-altering choice. I hurt because she left but stand steadfast behind my decision. This is my body and I am the sole person who will consider whether I do or don’t on this train of thinking.

Think Hard First

How you approach this is up to you and the results there of will be your responsibility to face and deal with. Learning from ourselves and viewing the results of others is a possible way to help conclude decisions you might want to make in your life. On this subject every fiber of your brain should be used to understand and evaluate what this subject matter is all about.

Priceless

Remember this above all things. You are the most special person on the face of the earth and there is only one of you in the entire universe. That makes you priceless and cant be replaced. Think this thought when you confront the chemical process. It might give you the insight to stop and pause for a moment and maybe this moment will help you see the value of what your doing and act accordingly.

Dating is Hard

But don't confuse sex and love as the same thing, because it isn't. That’s my story and I’m sticking to it.


Don L. Terrill

photo by merfam