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What People Want in Relationships


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What People Want in Relationships
By Cucan Pemo

I have been a long time student of the area of study known as "influence" and "persuasion". Truth is, I find that I get to know and understand my lover and partner BETTER - ONLY after I can better understand "MYSELF"!!

1. Understand what your partner wants

Your partner is often a reflection of WHO YOU ARE and where you are at so I urge you to try and observe and study yourself and your partner.

Being human beings we are always looking for opportunities for advancement. People, including you or your partner, want to learn, to sharpen our skills, or learn new ones.

When we go into a relationship or marriage there is always something that we want to learn out of it. If we are able to grow and develop as a human being in this relationship we want to keep it and stay in it for as long as we can.

There is no reason why anyone would want to walk out of a relationship if this want is being fulfilled.

This is why it is important you maintain healthy social life and active lifestyle so that you are constantly learning new things and having new experiences to share with your loved ones!

This is why experts encourage you to never stop dating and having fun in your relationship life!

And this is also why YOU have to allow the opportunity for your partner to find growth opportunities with you. Give him or her the freedom to learn, grow, and advance spiritually as a human being.

Help him/her grow.

2. People really do want to know that they do a good job in their relationship.

This applies to both YOU yourself and your partner!

Note: This is a want!

Understanding this, you would realize that when people are frustrated by too many rules, a not-so-understanding-and- appreciative partner, and red tape in a relationship, they'll want to look for elsewhere to breathe. Or, they'll gravitate towards someone else who can make them feel appreciated.

And you wouldn't want this to happen!

To help your partner stay in the relationship or marriage, give them the care and understanding they deserve. Also, try to understand and realize what it is that your partner seek from the relationship.

Don't ever try to ask your mate what is it they want. At times, they'll even find it hard to answer you. They might respond with things like "I don't know what I want", "I don't know who I am", etc. etc

Make a study of all the people around you. Observe them. Ask yourself why are you behaving the way you are. Why is your mate behaving and thinking the way he/she is.

I guaranteed you that you'll learn more about yourself and your mate than you'll learn in school and from textbooks . In schools, they don't even teach these stuff!

3. People want to do something meaningful in their work and their life!

Many people mistakenly thought that once they go into a relationship with their partners they can dictate how their partners live their life.

This is not true love.

All of us, including you and your partner, want to do something meaningful in their work today and life today. We are constantly looking for ways to make a difference, either for ourselves, for other people or for our loved ones!

And yes, this is a need. It is that which makes us feel alive as a human.

For many women, they define their relationships as their most meaning work in life. But women, remember that this is not true for most men. Men might define something else as their meaningful work in life and you have to work around looking after your needs and his needs as well. The same goes for men.

Don't dictate how your mate is going to live his/her life. At times, they need to go through certain aspects of life and circumstances to learn powerful lessons from them. They might meet with certain obstacles and difficulties that may directly or indirectly affect his/her relationship with you.

What you can do is to offer your support, care and understanding. May the light be with you!

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