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Rejection, Fear in relation to Dating


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Rejection, Fear in relation to Dating
By Devlyn Steele, Life Coach

Single again? As we travel through life, we often end up single. There are many reasons why. It could be the result of meeting the wrong person, death, cheating, lies, divorce, location, goals, and more.

Losing a relationship impacts us in many ways. It can be very painful, or it can be very refreshing, or anywhere in-between. No matter what the cause or the degree of pain, there is one truth we all share: We don't want to end up alone. We want companionship.

In order to get into a new relationship, we must be willing to meet and go out with people. It's our own fear, however, that often gets in the way.
  • We fear being rejected.
  • We fear having a bad time.
  • We fear getting hurt.
  • We fear having to reject someone else.
All these fears are valid yet easily overcome. If someone rejects you, it only means that that person feels you are not right for them. Believe me, there is someone else who would love to be with you. You have to accept rejection as part of the process of meeting the right person. It is only through trying that we will be able to get to the person that's best for you.

Many dates and relationships don't work out. You may look back and think of it as a bad time. It is all right to have a bad time. Only through bad dates do we get to the good dates. It is through our bad relationships that we have the opportunity to learn more about ourselves and what we want, to then approach relationships with more knowledge to succeed.

No one wants to get hurt, but if we do not dare to fall in love and get hurt, we cannot be in love. Getting hurt is part of the process. We do get through it and the pain does go away. The best part is there is new love waiting for you just around the corner.

You may also be fearful of rejecting someone. The truth is that you are not obligated to stay with someone who isn't right for you. Rejection is a natural part of the dating and relationship process.

Change how you look at rejection and see it as a favor. When you reject someone, you are releasing him or her to go find someone who will truly appreciate that person. Look at it that way also when someone rejects you. After all, do you really want to be with someone who doesn't want you? It's better to be free to find someone who actually wants to be with you.

Can you predict the future? I can't. In fact, most of us don't think we can. Yet we continue to believe in self-limiting thoughts about the future. We believe so firmly in these thoughts that we allow them to stop us from moving forward and realizing opportunities.

Instead of predicting pain, I can predict for you that if you embrace the dating process instead of watching life pass you by, you will have both good and bad times. I can also predict that these good and bad times will lead you to even better times.
Embrace the journey and release your fear.

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