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Flirting Tips For Men
by Joseph Matthews
I would like to ask you a question.
Have you ever been stuck in the friend mode with a woman you meet and like, despite all your best romantic efforts?
Do you ever wonder why this happens?
Chances are it is because you did not flirt correctly with the woman.
You should know that flirting is essential in the attraction process. If you do not do it at all or do it wrong, you may blow your chances with a woman.
Why is flirting essential?
This is simple flirting creates sexual tension.
When there is no sexual tension within your interactions, there will be no attraction. When you do not have attraction, this places you in a different category.
Yes, that is right; it makes you simply a friend.
Your attraction enhances when you know how to flirt with women properly.
Flirting is a lot of fun and not so much a secret as some might consider, however when done incorrectly it will not work.
The art of flirting with women is all about communicating your romantic interest in the woman rather than just letting the cat out of the bag.
These are mixed signals.
You communicate one thing yet your words say something very different.
Some of the more common mistakes of flirting with women that men make may include:
MISTAKE #1: They Are Way Too Obvious
Some men find it overwhelming when they feel attraction to a woman and then spit it all out at once letting her know how they feel. This type of presentation of information places the woman at a disadvantage of deciding what she feels for the man.
You must lay the proper groundwork ahead of time, so you can avoid rejection.
MISTAKE #2: They Aren't Obvious Enough!
There are men who communicate no interest at all, since they assume the woman knows how they feel. This catches a woman by surprise because she has not clue of his interest.
MISTAKE #3: They Rely More On Words Than Actions
Although, flirting includes what you say and the way you say it, the most powerful performance comes from your non-verbal body language. The small simple things like raising an eyebrow, tilting your head to one side and that wicked little grin, that carries the most meaning in a seemingly innocent remark.
MISTAKE #4: Taking Themselves Too Seriously
Flirting is fun and light when done properly. When men begin adding serious romantic gestures with flirting, the sexual tension begins to break down.
If you're not having fun when flirting - and more importantly, if the girl isn't having fun - then you are doing something WRONG.
Although, there are other mistakes, these few should give you some ideas. Would you like to learn the proper way to begin flirting?
Use as many sexual overtones as possible, this is a good way to flirt, however, you must keep it subtle.
So for instance, if you're at a bar, and the girl you're with orders a drink and then turns to you and asks if you'd like something, you could jokingly say - "You're not trying to get me drunk so you can take advantage of me, are you?" (Of course, this is said with a wink and a nod.)
This lets her know you are interested without saying it outright. Flirting is implication and it is fun and lighthearted.
Another example would be, if a girl says something raunchy or naughty to you, you might respond with something like "Stop trying to seduce me, you vixen! You know I don't put out on the first date."
See how that works?
Then, as you begin to flirt more and more, you can start getting a little more obvious about your interests, while never really crossing that line.
As you do this, you'll begin to notice how the attraction between you and the girl starts to build and build. And before you know it, that harmless flirting becomes an outright SEDUCTION.
The real fun begins at this point.
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