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Dating Secrets For Men
by Joseph Matthews
When you think of "dating" a woman, you probably think of "dinner and a movie," am I right?
You go out and doing things with the woman while you get to know her.
Consider for a moment that this is a misconception about dating.
Although many men may consider dating a woman means they have some type of hidden romantic purpose, this is not always true.
Let's go over some of the most common mistakes guys make when "dating" a girl...
Mistake #1: Dates are simply to impress a woman.
Many men feel they have to prove themselves while on a date, so the woman is attracted to them. Many may take a woman out to expensive places while showing her a good time; while they go on to build himself up as important by bragging.
Mistake #2: You can buy the love of a woman.
Sadly, many men think that if they spend enough money on a woman, they can get her to sleep with them. This is always (and has always been) a bad idea. Aside from the gold diggers in the world, most women don't care how much you're spending on a date.
Mistake #3: Activities are a pointless waste of time!
Since spending time together does not equal a romantic interest, going out with someone does not mean as much as you would think it does, therefore, doing the dinner and a movie date, does not mean the girl will be attracted to you.
Mistake #4: Men become boring!
A date with no spark of chemistry is boring. Although many men become nervous while on dates, they often interrupt themselves by becoming boring. They often talk about their routines while displaying little to none of their distinct personality. This is going through the motions with hopes of not messing things up.
Mistake #5: The patterns of failure.
Some men think dates should go a certain way, they have their own ideas of how things are suppose to turn out, they then follow the same strict pattern of failure. They always go to the same places, while asking their dates the same questions they have asked all the other women they have dated. There is no fun or natural impulses offered into their interactions.
What does it mean to go on dates with a woman?
Simple: Dating is the process of building comfort, strengthening emotional connections, and building attraction!
See, it doesn't matter where you go, or how much money you spend. All that matters is how you're able to connect to the woman you're with and what you can make her feel about you.
That is why so many guys can take a girl on a cheap date and sweep her off her feet, and other guys can drop thousands of dollars on really creative dates and get NOWHERE.
You should completely focus on how you can increase your emotional connection with the woman you date.
Talk about your shared interests. Talk about your passions. Try and figure out what her hopes and dreams are.
Learn to rephrase your questions, rather than wanting to know where she works, ask her some interesting and fun questions, such as If you could do anything you wish, what would you wish to do?
Just have fun and enjoy yourself!
Crack jokes - even if they're not good. Have fun. Steer the conversation toward subjects she finds interesting. Be curious about who she is.
But most importantly, don't shy away from sex!
Too many guys are afraid to even broach the topic of sex while on a date. But you have to build the sexual tension to intensify the attraction.
Relax and be a bit wicked by flirting and joking with your date about romance women enjoy this as well. Therefore, if you do not, you have no means of building the attraction of the woman you date onto a higher level.
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